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Thanks, I was getting a complex. Lee
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi Laura, I think you misquoted Lee (Miss Violette); she ’s actually doing really great on WW and has lost lots of pounds ! Maybe you wanted to reply to Spoons, who is having a difficult time ? best, — Nathalie from Belgium 134.1/112.2/minigoal 111.4/Goal 68 Kg 295.6/247.4/minigoal 245.6/Goal 150 pounds NAFC 253.8/247.4/238 Hi Miss Violette……To be honest i don’t think you are ready for weight watchers yet.Take a break from the plan and forget about it then have another go! Sorry you are having a bad time, and the bad part here is that we all go through this. The good part is that you haven’t given up because you are starting over each day, good luck, Lee Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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THANK YOU! What an awesome azz kickin post…I am saving your post to read everyday and keep me motivated and on program! 
Thanks, Carmen
~SigCity~
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Carmen… I found Tony to be very rude to talk like that it did nothing for me…some people like yourself get off on stuff like that so enjoy it! THANK YOU! What an awesome azz kickin post…I am saving your post to read everyday and keep me motivated and on program! Thanks, Carmen ~SigCity~
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Hi Miss Violette……To be honest i don’t think you are ready for weight watchers yet.Take a break from the plan and forget about it then have another go!
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Sorry you are having a bad time, and the bad part here is that we all go through this. The good part is that you haven’t given up because you are starting over each day, good luck, Lee Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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Hi Laura, I think you misquoted Lee (Miss Violette); she ’s actually doing really great on WW and has lost lots of pounds ! Maybe you wanted to reply to Spoons, who is having a difficult time ? best, — Nathalie from Belgium 134.1/112.2/minigoal 111.4/Goal 68 Kg 295.6/247.4/minigoal 245.6/Goal 150 pounds NAFC 253.8/247.4/238
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi Miss Violette……To be honest i don’t think you are ready for weight watchers yet.Take a break from the plan and forget about it then have another go! Sorry you are having a bad time, and the bad part here is that we all go through this. The good part is that you haven’t given up because you are starting over each day, good luck, Lee Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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Glad you are better, Lee
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I just wanted to thank everyone for the advice and comments. I lost focus for a brief moment but I’m back on track now thanks to all of you. And yes I started this in mind to get healthier for my kids & for myself. After reading all the posts I now know what I need to do & NO! I’m not giving up I came this far & I’m sticking too it. I would’ve posted sooner but I was busy getting back in control and focusing on my goal. I went to the library took out some WW’s cookbooks I figure that some new recipes will add some spice to my boring regular menus. I also found "Energy Break Through" by Sarah The Duchess Of York. It’s really good & I can’t put it down. Has anyone else read it? I’ve made my list of why I want to stay OP to get to goal and I like the idea that Isabella had of putting pictures in the journal but instead of cutting out pictures from magazines I’m going to put a picture of me at my heaviest along side a picture of a thinner me when I was happy with my weight. That should give me something to look at when I get down. Like most of you I too have tried different weight loss plans before starting WW’s. That’s when I realized that in July 2002 I weighed 183 then tried Atkins and slim fast then I stopped & took a little break to find what would be right for me…that’s when I found WW’s & this amazing group. So since then in total I’ve lost 17 lbs and looking at it that way instead of just the 9 lbs lost on WW’s..I know I can’t give up now since I’ve lost so much already. Again I want to thank you all for your great posts & I hope that down the road I can be helpful to you when you’re in need of a pick me up. Thanks a bunch & Big Hugs SPOONS Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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This is a great post pr, Lee
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – You’ve already received lots of feedback with much for you to think about. If I can add my $.02 worth, I suggest that you try not to be so hard on yourself. Beating yourself up, feeling guilty or not happy with yourself, can itself be DE-motivating and can be a setup for self-sabotage. If you’re someone who eats as a "pick-me-up" or to make yourself feel better, then you can see how feeling bad about not staying OP can actually be a trigger. Maybe you need to look at all the things going on in your life–all the stresses of having young children, financial concerns, etc.–and consider the possibility that now may not be the right time for you to be embarked on a weight loss program. You can want to lose weight and want to be thinner, but there are other forces at work that just don’t make that feasible right now. It’s OK if you decide that you’ve lost enough weight for now. You can come back to it any time. You know, weighing 175 or 166 or 140 does not make you a bad person or a good person. Your weight is not a measure of your worth, it’s not an reflection of your character, it’s not a judgment of any kind. It’s a statistic, that’s all. A statistic that indicates relative health perhaps, but it says nothing at all about who and how you are as a mental, emotional, or spiritual human being. All that said, if there’s a part of that’s motivated and a part of you that isn’t, maybe you could try getting to know the unmotivated part. What is it trying to tell you? I’ve heard of some people using the acronym HALT when they find themselves wanting to eat something unplanned. They ask themselves if they’re Hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired? If they’re genuinely hungry, they eat foods that fit according to their food plan. If they’re any of the latter three, they find other means to address those emotional and physical needs. Good luck figuring out what’s right for you. I’ll sure be thinking about you. — Prairie Roots 232/215.5/10% 209/157 == Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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What a good idea, Lee
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi…i haven’t been on the program long…lol, today was my first meeting….:) But on the way home i went and bought a notebook to make a journal. I am going to call it "The Journey"….and i am planning on putting pictures, recipes, any good advice, and thoughts down. I am also cutting out successful weight loss photos that i cut out of a recent magazine. I know that i am going to have days when i might want to throw in the towel and i am hoping that this journal will help me stay on course. Maybe something like this would help you? isabela
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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Glad to hear that things are looking up for you, Spoons. Elaine K 331.4/190.2/179 – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – I just wanted to thank everyone for the advice and comments. I lost focus for a brief moment but I’m back on track now thanks to all of you. And yes I started this in mind to get healthier for my kids & for myself. After reading all the posts I now know what I need to do & NO! I’m not giving up I came this far & I’m sticking too it. I would’ve posted sooner but I was busy getting back in control and focusing on my goal. I went to the library took out some WW’s cookbooks I figure that some new recipes will add some spice to my boring regular menus. I also found "Energy Break Through" by Sarah The Duchess Of York. It’s really good & I can’t put it down. Has anyone else read it? I’ve made my list of why I want to stay OP to get to goal and I like the idea that Isabella had of putting pictures in the journal but instead of cutting out pictures from magazines I’m going to put a picture of me at my heaviest along side a picture of a thinner me when I was happy with my weight. That should give me something to look at when I get down. Like most of you I too have tried different weight loss plans before starting WW’s. That’s when I realized that in July 2002 I weighed 183 then tried Atkins and slim fast then I stopped & took a little break to find what would be right for me…that’s when I found WW’s & this amazing group. So since then in total I’ve lost 17 lbs and looking at it that way instead of just the 9 lbs lost on WW’s..I know I can’t give up now since I’ve lost so much already. Again I want to thank you all for your great posts & I hope that down the road I can be helpful to you when you’re in need of a pick me up. Thanks a bunch & Big Hugs SPOONS Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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Sorry you are having a bad time, and the bad part here is that we all go through this. The good part is that you haven’t given up because you are starting over each day, good luck, Lee
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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I just wanted to thank everyone for the advice and comments. I lost focus for a brief moment but I’m back on track now thanks to all of you. And yes I started this in mind to get healthier for my kids & for myself. After reading all the posts I now know what I need to do & NO! I’m not giving up I came this far & I’m sticking too it. I would’ve posted sooner but I was busy getting back in control and focusing on my goal. I went to the library took out some WW’s cookbooks I figure that some new recipes will add some spice to my boring regular menus. I also found "Energy Break Through" by Sarah The Duchess Of York. It’s really good & I can’t put it down. Has anyone else read it? I’ve made my list of why I want to stay OP to get to goal and I like the idea that Isabella had of putting pictures in the journal but instead of cutting out pictures from magazines I’m going to put a picture of me at my heaviest along side a picture of a thinner me when I was happy with my weight. That should give me something to look at when I get down. Like most of you I too have tried different weight loss plans before starting WW’s. That’s when I realized that in July 2002 I weighed 183 then tried Atkins and slim fast then I stopped & took a little break to find what would be right for me…that’s when I found WW’s & this amazing group. So since then in total I’ve lost 17 lbs and looking at it that way instead of just the 9 lbs lost on WW’s..I know I can’t give up now since I’ve lost so much already. Again I want to thank you all for your great posts & I hope that down the road I can be helpful to you when you’re in need of a pick me up. Thanks a bunch & Big Hugs SPOONS
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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can itself be DE-motivating and can be a setup for self-sabotage. If you’re someone who eats as a "pick-me-up" or to make yourself feel better, then you can see how feeling bad about not staying OP can actually be a trigger. Maybe you need to look at all the things going on in your life–all the stresses of having young children, financial concerns, etc.–and consider the possibility that now may not be the right time for you to be embarked on a weight loss program. You can want to lose weight and want to be thinner, but there are other forces at work that just don’t make that feasible right now. It’s OK if you decide that you’ve lost enough weight for now. You can come back to it any time.
you know, this was really a wonderful post. i agree completely and love that last quoted point. it’s important for us to take things in our time, in our own way, and not be so bloody hard on ourselves. today is just the right time for me to be doing weight watcher’s, but last year at this time wasn’t. everything in its own time, when we’re ready. that’s not to say we don’t all have little challenges within that ‘ready’ time, but if we are fighting so hard against ourselves, perhaps we’re being unreasonable and setting ourselves up for continued failure rather than eventual success. just giving ourselves permission to make that choice is, i think, tremendously freeing – and rational! it can free us to stay on program knowing it doesn’t have to be such a struggle – we can take a break whenever we want. jill 230.6/193.4/145
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Hi Spoons. I would like to have an explanation for your constant hunger. Would the explanation be in what you eat? Please tell me everything you ate yesterday, for instance. Eating a cookie is certainly not a good idea! As others pointed out, one cookie will lead you to another. The domino effect! In my case, I pretty much eat everything I used to. The difference is that I now eat REASONABLY, that is that I cut my portions of food by 40% and eat one dessert a day instead of two or three like I used to. As well, I keep the following items for Saturdays: Cookies, pies, fries, cakes. Still, I take a reasonable portion – I choose the small box or container. I no longer eat junk food like bretzels, chips, pops, etc. They are now my ennemies. If you are starving, then you should change your food. As for the exercice, I have been told that you need one hour of stationary bike for seven days to lose 1 pound. I think that exercice makes you lose weight on the long run only. Denis – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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Wow, very well said Suzy! I am always telling my kids that life is full of decisions, theirs to make – but they do have to take responsibility for and live with the repercussions of any and all choices they make. They are not allowed to blame *problems* on others or hit me with constant excuses, as they are directly responsible for their own actions. I find that this attitude (good or bad) tends to apply to all aspects of life. I also agree with the money issue. Dh came in from the store today complaining about the price of fruit this week … I answered with, "and how much did those 2 bags of chips cost you? Aren’t we worth the price of fruit?" He did laugh, did agree and stopped complaining. When I do some deep soul searching, I realized that I easily threw away more money on convenience and junk food than what I spend on ww or healthier food items. Heck, I probably *wasted* more money on crappy clothing that was seldom worn – trying to find that magic button that would make me feel good about myself! And I won’t even get into the dollar amount of baseball equipment that passes through our doors. <grin WW is not cheap, but again .. we are worth it. The online program is only $15 or so a month, granted you don’t get the meetings but you do get the knowledge of the program. I believe the storefront program is $10/week – again, easy to cut back on *something* to find those finances. A friend was/is the queen of complaining about finances and not having money to pay her bills … yet she continues to smoke over 3 packs a day (no exageration!) at the cost of close to $4/pack … which I figure to be close to $100/week easily – and eats/feeds her family every meal outside of the home which is also not cheap. I am a smoker also (bad me) so sure won’t deny her of her purchases … but geeeeeeeesh, quit complaining …. guess it goes right back to my original statement of *life is full of choices, assume responsibility for those you make*. Joyce – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Isn’t WW great that you have lost 9 pounds while not staying OP? No time for exercise? Do you watch TV? Spend time on the computer? How do you find time for those things? No money for WW? Did someone give you the cookies or did you buy them? I don’t mean to be rude, just pointing out that we always have time and money for the things that are important to us. Also trying to get you to look at things a little differently. Good luck. — SuzyQ Weight 128 125 NAFC and personal goal WW Lifetime Membership Feb 03 SSC http://www.chiefimaging.com/asdww/index.htm Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS
– started ww 2/5/02 — 228.8/145.5/150ww goal/140ish personal goal WW GOAL!!! 2/21/03 NAFC website can be found at: http://home.earthlink.net/~jaw179/
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Exercise is great, but it isn’t essential to weight loss … so don’t use that as an excuse. I am horrible in the exercise department, but still have been successful in the weightloss. I sure wish I could help you in the motivation department, but you know that can only come from within yourself. What started you on this journey? Maybe you need to take a step back and really look at that, as well as how important shedding those extra pounds is to you. If it truly is important to you, then don’t let the other things get in your way. I know life with toddlers can be very hectic and tiring … but it doesn’t get any better as they get older, only gets different. I hate to tell you how many times (most all the time) I feel that I live my life doing nothing but meeting everyone else’s needs, by the end of the day there is nothing left for me. All this managed to do was to throw me into a deep depression (twice now) and leave me unfunctionable. When I got the depression under control, I got myself under control. It is very important to make and take time for yourself, meet your own needs. Yes, you do need to take care of those little ones of yours, but you also need to know that it is very important for you to take care of *you* too! This includes meeting your own needs and desires. If you want to exercise, you can still do it with the kids. Let them exercise along with you – make a game out of it. I used to put music on and dance with the kids … or an exercise video and let them do their version of the routines. Again, it comes down to what you really want and need – kids will adapt easily. If those cookies are your downfall, then remove them from your home! Replace with fruit – you’ll still satisfy those fruit cravings. Yes, one cookie WILL hurt – as they usually only lead to one more, and one more – pretty self-defeating in my book. Your kids are young enough to not care and not miss them. No reason why they can’t also snack on berries or melon, apple slices, pear slices – wonderful and healthy sweet treats. And think of the benefits you will be teaching them for their future! You can do this without officially joining ww or going to meetings, but again, the drive and motivation has to come from within yourself. I have not attended one single ww meeting, although I did join the online program just to give me the knowledge as to how the program worked. The 80+ lost pounds have been on my own and due to changes I made in my own life (such as taking care of my mental health problems and making *me* a priority). If you feel better about yourself, the rest will fall into place. C’mon spoons – I know you can do this if you really want to. I have faith in you – but you have to have that same faith! Don’t let anyone or anything get in your way. Joyce — started ww 2/5/02 — 228.8/145.5/150ww goal/140ish personal goal WW GOAL!!! 2/21/03 NAFC website can be found at: http://home.earthlink.net/~jaw179/ – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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You’ve already received lots of feedback with much for you to think about. If I can add my $.02 worth, I suggest that you try not to be so hard on yourself. Beating yourself up, feeling guilty or not happy with yourself, can itself be DE-motivating and can be a setup for self-sabotage. If you’re someone who eats as a "pick-me-up" or to make yourself feel better, then you can see how feeling bad about not staying OP can actually be a trigger. Maybe you need to look at all the things going on in your life–all the stresses of having young children, financial concerns, etc.–and consider the possibility that now may not be the right time for you to be embarked on a weight loss program. You can want to lose weight and want to be thinner, but there are other forces at work that just don’t make that feasible right now. It’s OK if you decide that you’ve lost enough weight for now. You can come back to it any time. You know, weighing 175 or 166 or 140 does not make you a bad person or a good person. Your weight is not a measure of your worth, it’s not an reflection of your character, it’s not a judgment of any kind. It’s a statistic, that’s all. A statistic that indicates relative health perhaps, but it says nothing at all about who and how you are as a mental, emotional, or spiritual human being. All that said, if there’s a part of that’s motivated and a part of you that isn’t, maybe you could try getting to know the unmotivated part. What is it trying to tell you? I’ve heard of some people using the acronym HALT when they find themselves wanting to eat something unplanned. They ask themselves if they’re Hungry? Angry? Lonely? Tired? If they’re genuinely hungry, they eat foods that fit according to their food plan. If they’re any of the latter three, they find other means to address those emotional and physical needs. Good luck figuring out what’s right for you. I’ll sure be thinking about you. — Prairie Roots 232/215.5/10% 209/157 == – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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I think the tiredness & being sick have really done you in. Is there anyway you can take a mini vacation? Will someone take the kids so that you can have a weekend for yourself? I’m also a person who has trouble keeping on program when I’m exhausted & with 2 kids you are always tired. I can’t offer you any help or more advice but here’s a big hug for you. Elaine K 331.4/190.2/179 – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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Isn’t WW great that you have lost 9 pounds while not staying OP? No time for exercise? Do you watch TV? Spend time on the computer? How do you find time for those things? No money for WW? Did someone give you the cookies or did you buy them? I don’t mean to be rude, just pointing out that we always have time and money for the things that are important to us. Also trying to get you to look at things a little differently. Good luck. — SuzyQ Weight 128 125 NAFC and personal goal WW Lifetime Membership Feb 03 SSC http://www.chiefimaging.com/asdww/index.htm
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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Hi Spoons, you’re obviously having a bad time. No one that I know stays motivated 100% of the time, when you’re not, act "as if", and stay OP only because you’ll feel worse the next day if you don’t. You may look at my loss of almost 55 pounds and think "she’s motivated", well I’m not. I have days, though not often anymore, where I just want to eat everything in sight, but I have learned nothing tastes as good as I think it’s going to, so it’s not worth the next day’s anger and frustration of going off OP. I have a wonderful 2 1/2 year old grandson who calls me ‘mama’, and I want to be a ‘mama’ for a long, long time, not only to him but others who may come along. You have two adorable babies who need a mommie who can run and play with them, watch them grow up, and be there. Think about them, make that your focus and motivation for the time being. Hang on, it does get easier. Hugs to you and your lovely babies. Linda 252/197.2/3rd 10%-184 NAFC goa-198 (SPOONS) Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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Dear Spoons, First of all, 9 lbs in 11 weeks is .8 lbs a week — perfectly within the WW suggested .5-2.0 lbs per week. Second, if you continue at this rate you will have lost 41.6 lbs in one year which would put you way below your goal. Third, some people turn their days around and start with their full allotment of points just before dinner, then count tomorrow’s breakfast, lunch, afternoon snack. Then start over again. Fourth, exercise is nice but not nice enough to get all fixated about. I have a friend who lost 25 lbs on WW without ever exercising at all. She joined our walking group *after* getting to lifetime. So, exercise because it feels good, or helps you sleep better if you yoga stretch before bed, or gives you a fun activity in front of the TV with the little ones (libraries have exercise videotapes for free). Hang in there girl. We are all here rooting for you. — Anne Rudolph "It’s not having what you want; it’s wanting what you’ve got." — Sheryl Crow 162/128.8/132 http://home.covad.net/~arudolph/annes.htm
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Hi…i haven’t been on the program long…lol, today was my first meeting….:) But on the way home i went and bought a notebook to make a journal. I am going to call it "The Journey"….and i am planning on putting pictures, recipes, any good advice, and thoughts down. I am also cutting out successful weight loss photos that i cut out of a recent magazine. I know that i am going to have days when i might want to throw in the towel and i am hoping that this journal will help me stay on course. Maybe something like this would help you? isabela
I think maybe you’ve found something that will help me motivate me. I need something to reflect upon, and this sounds great. Thanks — Roseann 250 (post baby 2001) 188.5 (3/2003) 140 (goal) Worrying does not empty tomorrow of its troubles, it empties today of its strength.
– Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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Joyce, DH and I were having almost this exact conversation. Groceries aren’t cheap, but neither were the dinners out or all the delivered pizzas. We used to throw out a fair amount of food since I never planned meals, but just went to the store and grabbed whatever looked good. Now, I plan our dinners for the whole week (chicken on Sundays, fish on Fridays, date night on Saturday) based on the grocery store ad and our schedules. Some nights we just have Boca burgers. We try new recipes from the WW site, from magazines (like Health), from cookbooks, from Dotti’s, etc. We keep old favorites around. We order pizza occassionally. But all of it is planned. Now when I go shopping I know exactly what we need. We use that stuff and hardly throw anything out. When I first starting going over my goal weight and having to pay for meetings, I would skip a week here and there to avoid paying. However, I finally decided that I lost the weight in the first place by attending weekly meetings and that was what I needed to be doing to lose the weight I’ve gained back. Yes, it’s expensive, but still a lot cheaper than buying new clothes. Okay, now I’ve run on… Best, Diane 157/153/146 – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Wow, very well said Suzy! I am always telling my kids that life is full of decisions, theirs to make – but they do have to take responsibility for and live with the repercussions of any and all choices they make. They are not allowed to blame *problems* on others or hit me with constant excuses, as they are directly responsible for their own actions. I find that this attitude (good or bad) tends to apply to all aspects of life. I also agree with the money issue. Dh came in from the store today complaining about the price of fruit this week … I answered with, "and how much did those 2 bags of chips cost you? Aren’t we worth the price of fruit?" He did laugh, did agree and stopped complaining. When I do some deep soul searching, I realized that I easily threw away more money on convenience and junk food than what I spend on ww or healthier food items. Heck, I probably *wasted* more money on crappy clothing that was seldom worn – trying to find that magic button that would make me feel good about myself! And I won’t even get into the dollar amount of baseball equipment that passes through our doors. <grin WW is not cheap, but again .. we are worth it. The online program is only $15 or so a month, granted you don’t get the meetings but you do get the knowledge of the program. I believe the storefront program is $10/week – again, easy to cut back on *something* to find those finances. A friend was/is the queen of complaining about finances and not having money to pay her bills … yet she continues to smoke over 3 packs a day (no exageration!) at the cost of close to $4/pack … which I figure to be close to $100/week easily – and eats/feeds her family every meal outside of the home which is also not cheap. I am a smoker also (bad me) so sure won’t deny her of her purchases … but geeeeeeeesh, quit complaining …. guess it goes right back to my original statement of *life is full of choices, assume responsibility for those you make*. Joyce Isn’t WW great that you have lost 9 pounds while not staying OP? No time for exercise? Do you watch TV? Spend time on the computer? How do you find time for those things? No money for WW? Did someone give you the cookies or did you buy them? I don’t mean to be rude, just pointing out that we always have time and money for the things that are important to us. Also trying to get you to look at things a little differently. Good luck. — SuzyQ Weight 128 125 NAFC and personal goal WW Lifetime Membership Feb 03 SSC http://www.chiefimaging.com/asdww/index.htm Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS
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Hi…i haven’t been on the program long…lol, today was my first meeting….:) But on the way home i went and bought a notebook to make a journal. I am going to call it "The Journey"….and i am planning on putting pictures, recipes, any good advice, and thoughts down. I am also cutting out successful weight loss photos that i cut out of a recent magazine. I know that i am going to have days when i might want to throw in the towel and i am hoping that this journal will help me stay on course. Maybe something like this would help you? isabela – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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Hi, It would probably be a heluva good idea if you took your own sig line to heart. It’s pretty obvious you haven’t got your eye on the goal…..or maybe there’s no goal? It really sounds for all the world like you just don’t want to do this. I know that you *tell yourself* that’s not so, but remember: "I judge me by my intentions; the world judges me by my results." So before you begin protesting, ask yourself if there is any truth in this. You’re missing the boat, girl! I don’t know of anyone whose "motivation" is at peak pitch all the time. Mine certainly isn’t. I’ve gone through a one-month stall (in Feb), and on a number of days I was ready to scrap the whole deal. But then, I’ve always been "flash and dash" — great beginnings, but little or no finish… Sound familiar? Back in October I discovered I’d lost 19 lb after surgery. I decided to keep the momentum going by signing up for WW At-Home. Since then, there have been some days when I’ve wondered, "What was I thinking?" But somewhere in there was the ‘click,’ and a commitment to stay the course. I’m struggling. I deal with chronic pain, chronic clinical depression and a whole history of self-destructive behavior every single day. But there is a commitment — don’t ask me how — and I will not quit. I may screw up, but I will not *give up.* Now I maintain that if I can do this, *anyone* can do this. I know that I’m accused of being the resident ass-kicker, and that some of the things I post seem harsh. Fine. I can live with that. I gotta live with me, not you. But when you come here and say things like, "One cookie won’t hurt.." who do you think you’re kidding? First of all, you’re obviously thinking of this whole thing like a "diet." You’re screwed before you even open your mouth. If you want the excess weight to go away, you have to *live* differently. This is no panty-waist little lark through Dietland, after which you will be beautiful, eat the way you always did and live skinnily ever after! This is real life, and I’m sorry to report it’s not pretty. Tough! If you want to succeed at this program, YOU are going to have to make the necessary changes. And they are made in between your ears, not with your hand on the refrigerator door! You want to be thin and healthy? You want to look good? You want to amaze your friends and loved ones? Then start doing the things that support that, and stop screwing around!! Look, there is NO ONE here who cannot eat a cookie, unless it’s a trigger. On this program, as you most likely know, there are NO forbidden foods. So don’t look for sympathy by blaming the food. IT’S YOUR CHOICE. But first you have to want it. You have to want it badly enough to be willing to make a commitment to yourself. The fact that you seem unable to commit indicates that you’re using the food to cover something else. And that’s usually fear, anxiety, a "knowing" that you’re unworthy and don’t deserve to be well. In other words, you’re a junkie, pure and simple. You get off on food, and you use it to medicate all the bad feelings that come up in your life….and they come up a lot! Well, you need to sit yourself down and write out all this horses$#t you’ve been telling yourself, and then ask yourself, "If someone came to me and said this, what would I tell them?" You need to come to the understanding that all the stuff you’re stuffing is lies, lies, lies. If you *really* weren’t "good enough" to do this, if you *really* didn’t deserve better than you’re treating yourself, you wouldn’t be here. You’d be dead. The very fact that you’re breathing means you’re good enough. And you can do what people who are good enough can do — that is, you can commit to treating yourself like you really count. I don’t care what you have to go through. I don’t care if you have health problems, abuse issues, an inner brat who won’t shut up.. You tell that little b%^*d to get lost! You adopt a policy of ZERO tolerance, and start doing the thing like you mean it, not like a damn "diet!" You’re worth it, you have every right to succeed and thrive, and it’s time to get the show on the road! And you’d better keep in mind that you cannot do it alone. That’s why this group and others are here. Need live people? Can’t afford meetings? Call Overeaters Anonymous — a buck in the basket is all you need, and you don’t even need that! Call TOPS — maybe ten or twenty bucks a YEAR plus local dues (usually pretty cheap). If you want it, it’s here for you. And so are we. Special case? Uh-uh. Pity pot? Forget it. Commitment, one day at a time? Now you’re talking! Your move. Best of luck with whatever you decide, Tony Florida 278/227/155 (since Jul 26, ‘02) NAFC = 220
. – Hide quoted text — Show quoted text – Hi all, I’m on my 11th week on ww’s and so far I’ve lost 9 lbs. Sunday’s are my wi’s so I’m hopping for a lose but I’m not holding my breath. It’s been about 2 weeks now that I’m not motivated. I start each day saying "OK today I’m staying OP" but by the time dinner comes around I’m pretty much done my points. I’ve lost my motivation & I’m not focused. I want to exercise but never have the time I’m so tired and I’ve been sick for the last week. I have 2 toddlers so the only time I can do exercise is either early morning or at night when they go to sleep. But I’m not even motivated to do that. OK I know I’m using my kids as an excuse for me being lazy but I’m really pooped by the time 8pm rolls around. My form of exercise is that I bought an exercise ball and so far have used 3 times. I’ve been journaling everyday & trying to get in my water. After lunch I usually get a craving and then say…one cookie won’t hurt…etc. I’m really not happy with myself on how fast I’ve lost my drive to stay on the program. I need to think of things to get me motivated again & stay focused. I guess imaging a thinner me is motivation enough but NOPE the image fades away. By the way, I’m not a member of ww’s so I’m doing this on my own with whatever info I find off the net & on this amazing group. So going to a meeting is not an option. Just can’t fit it in our budget. SPOONS 175/166/140 Total loss 9 lbs Started WW’s Jan 19, 2003 "An obstacle is something you see when you take your eyes off the goal."
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, til 4:00 then hike out. Have a Budweiser (or two) back at the car then drive back to the cabin, drink a scotch or two while preparing a feast, feast on the feast with a bottle of good red wine, follow it up with a wee bit more scotch and hit the hay shortly after sundown. Repeat. 
: I know that the cause has been too much too soon, I was in training for the : London Marathon. Which I raised over $2000 for a charity, so I am going to : walk it if I have to (can’t stand that thought) : : Besides the recent article in runners world, does anyone have any good info : on IT band Syndrome? Especially tips on how to train through the healing : process. At this point I believe that the marathon on April 2 will be out : of reach for my body, but I’d be interested in what others have : experienced. That depends on how much you over did it… I was training for my first marathon, and guess what hit me 1 month before the race…darn ITB-syndrome. Lately I have been taking it quite easy ~25miles/week down from ~35. I guess I have been kind of paranoid, because it was quite a set back…I over did it because I was unsure of the problem… : One last question, Does anyone know the feasability of : training on a treadmill in four feet of water, with limited dry land : running, and then trying to run a marathon? : : Please E-mail me in addition to posting your reply. : Thanks in advance, : : Scott I have a message that I will not take credit for…it is something that a gal by the name of Jenny Ryan graciously shared with me…I hope it helps!! ken Any suggestions…exercise or stretching tips that maybe I might not have come accross? Thanks MUCHLY! Ken